I truly hope the man I marry will not think that way about me. I've mostly received that kind of reaction in the past when I've cried, but I long to be understood and accepted for that characteristic, not laughed at for something that God put in me and that I'm not ashamed of. I hope my man sees the value of tears for what they are. Now there are exceptional cases of women that cry to get their way, but honestly, I think that's the route a coward chooses. If you have a sincere justification for what you do though, then I'd probably stand up for you. I'd just not stand for destroying the value of tears.
God gave me the gift of tears and I think it's perfectly alright to shed those tears out of a broken spirit (guilt) or an aching heart for the unsaved. Even when you feel truly hurt, if you cry, I don't think it's "weak". My point here is that I think it's wrong to look down on tears. Jesus shed tears when He was in the Garden of Gethsemane while thinking about being separated from God. That time He was thinking about us, but He was also thinking about Himself and what He was going to lose by separating Himself from His Father. That's crying out of a broken heart, and I think that's righteous...! Nothing wrong with it! Also, guess what? I was made in the image of God... and guess what else? He put me together so that I would have a more sensitive heart so i could cry and pray for my children and my man and be their strength that way. I'm happy as I am, my friends. So if you're a girl, then celebrate us women for just being us. If you're a man, then let your woman/future woman be herself and don't look down on her for it. Be proud and thankful that you've married yourself a woman and not a man!
P.S: I hope I'm not sounding like an independent feminist or something like that, coz I'm not one! I'm just trying to live Christ in every way I can, because I love Him, because He loved and loves me more.
5 comments:
No, you do not sound like a faminist. Rather, you sound only like a very reasonable and sensible person. May the good Lord grant the desires of your heart.
Johnson C. Philip
Thanks uncle... appreciate that.
Hey Beula,, Hi,,,
I jus came across ur blog via ur facebook profile via the pic robinson has tagged of u,,
And I jus browsed and read this article n thot to comment,, and hey i am so glad to find my uncle (Johnson) too has commented..
Wat I wanted to say is that, ur apprehension of being looked down by men(future husband)if seen in tears is null. Men are very sensitive to the tears f the women they love, esp. wives(me being a married woman since the last year can testify to that on personal experience)[And their are exceptions too] BUT,, women(or anyone hu realises the effect of their tears) would tend to make their tears a platform to bring out the vulnerability of their husbands to get their way, which is not right and I would say a sin in the sight of the LOrd, and unbecoming of a beliving Chrisitan woman.
But Pray that thr Lord wud grant u a life partner hu is extremely sensitive to ur tears..God Bless. :)
Hey Supriya! What you said is very true! I'm glad for you that you have a husband like that. Thank you for sharing that! I don't know what kind of a husband would be best for me. So I'm open to whoever the Lord thinks is best for me. I just hope and pray that I'll be wise in my decisions. Thanks again!
"You have...put my tears into Your bottle; Are they not in Your book?" Ps. 56:8 :)
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